How often as women do we consider our own needs last? Forget about putting on our own oxygen mask. We are so busy taking care of others, both at home and at work, caring for ourselves is an afterthought. This is such a common theme for women that I dubbed this thinking the AFTER party!
I recently presented a workshop session for the Bloomington-Normal Chapter of the Association for Women in Communications where we explored this phenomenon in detail, “Stop Surviving and Start Thriving: 6 Steps for Creating Balance.” In the session we learned to apply my signature 6 step strategy to address the top communication challenges professional women face and explored resources resources to support the steps.
Last week I received a most unexpected phone call from a friend who was desperately trying to support a loved one struggling with cancer. As a transitional life coach and cancer survivor, she looked to me for a way to somehow make things okay.
Isn’t it curious that our first instinct as women is to try and fix the problem – the female stress response, “tend-and-befriend?” I wonder if that response is fueled by a genuine caring or the discomfort we feel with suffering. I suppose the motivation depends upon the person. Honestly for me it was a little of both. Continue reading